Although all human beings break down and weep for their loved ones, straight men often have the natural tendency to suppress their deep emotions. This common penchant has a lot to do with extensive social conditioning – teaching boys not to cry since it is associated with vulnerability and weakness. Over time, men mourn over their fellow macho buddies during burial or cremation services in a strangely unique way. One can make a relative comparison as to how they weep for their wives, mothers, fathers and children.
Suppressed emotions are often a lot harder to get over than those expressed openly in funeral poems. While macho men still reel from the death of their best buddies (comrades-in-arms), there are movies from which they can relate the same post-mortem kinship. Here are the following examples:
This movie tells a story of an unlikely friendship of a Navajo code-talker and his gloomy sergeant in World War II. Both the introductory and concluding scenes depict the main character’s commemoration of his friend’s death anniversary, atop the Grand Canyon in Navajo tradition.
This classic historical film tells the story of medieval Scottish hero, Sir William Wallace. As a kind of movie meant to heal the mourning hearts of hard men, one may look at it in the perspective of two side characters – Gimlish and young King Robert Bruce. The former reveres the dead hero in the same breadth of St. Peter and Jesus Christ’s relationship. The latter greatly respects a comrade despite their differences, one replete with rivalry.
This epic war drama tells an unlikely friendship between two soldiers on either side of the war. Over time, the captured American mercenary (protagonist) became the closest ally of a charismatic and intelligent samurai warlord. Apart from the few seconds of intimate brotherly closeness the samurai shared to the renegade mercenary before dying, the deceased icon also serves as a mentor to the surviving mercenary who told the weeping emperor how his friend lived.
The most interesting aspect of the movie in this regard is the closing scene. A devoted African comrade shared the few last words to the spirit of Maximus smilingly. It is a voice that is optimistic and hopeful, telling him, “You are home, and we are free. We will meet again, but not yet… not yet”.